What Does Your Love Look Like? Lyrics – Token

What Does Your Love Look Like? Lyrics Meaning

[Chorus: Token]
Token is being real about how he’s not the ideal partner, but he’s doing his best to be authentic. They both tried to mold each other into someone else, but neither of them really changed. It’s like they were trying to fix what wasn’t broken. He keeps asking the same question over and over, trying to understand how the other person views love and what it looks like to them deep down.

[Verse 1: Token]
Token wants to love his partner, but they just don’t seem to connect emotionally. It’s like they come from totally different worlds. Her life seemed more stable and protected—she had a gate around her home, a symbol of safety. His background was more rough and confrontational. She finds it strange that he took so long to say “I love you,” but for him, saying those words wasn’t normal growing up. His dad only said it when his mom was in the room, almost like it didn’t count otherwise. So now, when his partner wants more emotional openness or constantly asks where he is, it feels off to him. That level of closeness and checking in is just something he’s not familiar with. Her dad had a predictable presence—he was either working or relaxing. But Token didn’t have that kind of structure. In fact, he didn’t know where his dad was until he got a painful phone call that changed everything. That moment hit hard, and he dropped the phone from shock. He’s trying to be a better man, trying to be kind and present, but he’s learning as he goes. No one ever taught him these things. Even now, he looks to his manager more for advice about his career than his personal growth. Growing up, he constantly worried about finding a goodbye letter from his mom, meaning she might’ve left. That fear shaped him. So when he says he’s used to pain and instability, he really means it. He’s telling his partner not to hold back her emotions, but also feels the need to explain why he reacts the way he does.

[Chorus: Token]
He’s reminding her again that he’s not perfect for her, but he’s doing what he believes is right. Both of them tried to shape each other into something different, but in the end, they stayed the same. And now he’s left wondering, truly, what her version of love looks like.

[Bridge: Ren]
Ren admits he might not be the best fit for someone, but he’s not walking away either. Even though being alone hurts, he’s choosing to stay and face the pain instead of running. Then he wonders what love feels like for the other person—if it’s cold, lifeless, or maybe even harmful. He questions if their love drains them, or if it helps quiet the internal struggles when they’re close together. He’s exploring whether love is healing or just another kind of suffering.

[Verse 2: Ren]
Ren shares how therapy helped him connect his emotional struggles to his past. When love gets serious, he wants to run because it brings up all this pressure—being safe, making promises, showing bravery. It’s overwhelming. His therapist told him those feelings likely started when he was a child. That takes him back to 1996, in his hometown in Wales. He remembers his mom crying while his dad yelled and denied cheating. Even though things were broken, his mom still forgave. That cycle repeated every night—fights and chaos, while he tried to sleep through the noise. Those moments shaped how he now sees love—as something that might not be enough and could break under pressure. He remembers how those lessons soaked into him like they were part of his DNA. Later, during a tough conversation with his dad, he was told that love is complicated and messy. Even though his dad had made mistakes, he said he still loved Ren every day. After that, it was just Ren, his mom, and his sister. His mom got so stressed she became ill for a while. Ren had to step up fast and be strong for them. That responsibility made him grow up too soon. He kept pushing forward through all the confusion, but even now, when he feels love, it doesn’t always seem real. It still feels like something’s off, like he’s pretending.

[Bridge: Ren]
Ren digs deeper and wonders if love feels like it’s tearing you up from the inside. He asks if it keeps you awake at night, choking you emotionally, making it hard to breathe. He describes love as something that’s supposed to feel warm and comforting, but instead, it can feel like a weight. He’s still trying to figure it out—what real love is supposed to feel like. Sometimes he distracts himself with things like one-night stands just to avoid the pain, even though that ends up hurting others too. He’s caught in a cycle of confusion, emptiness, and longing, constantly wondering what love really is.

[Verse 3: Token]
Token opens up about his fear that the love he gets depends on his success. His partner says she cares, but he wonders if that would still be true if he lost his drive or motivation. It’s easy to love someone when everything’s going well, but what happens when things fall apart? She can’t answer that because she hasn’t seen him at his lowest, so he struggles to trust her love. He wonders if she’d still need him if he couldn’t be there, or if she’d give up. He starts to doubt if they’re truly meant for each other, or if their pasts have just made it too hard. Her trust issues and his fear of emotional expression keep clashing. When she gets loud, he shuts down because loud voices remind him of violence from his childhood. He’s seen real anger turn into real damage, like holes punched into walls, so he’s learned to stay quiet instead. Even though he doesn’t show big emotions, it’s not because he doesn’t feel them. It’s because he’s used to hiding them. He’s not asking her to hide hers—he just wants her to understand where he’s coming from.

[Chorus: Token]
Token brings it back one more time—he knows he isn’t the ideal partner, but he’s staying true to who he is. They both tried to change each other, and nothing worked. So now he’s left wondering: what does love actually look like for her? Is it the same as what he feels, or are they chasing two completely different things?